What’s the difference between these statements?
- I feel small around you.
- I feel like you look down on me.
Emotions can be tricky to communicate, especially in a disagreement or argument.
Generally it is a good idea to use “I feel…”
- I feel lonely when I am with you these days.
- I feel sad when you look at your phone at dinner.
- I feel far away from you now.
These statements communicate one’s inner feelings. The emotion is shared.
I feel like you…
Generally, “I feel like you…” is a judgement
- I feel like you are being distant.
- I feel like you don’t want to talk to me.
- I feel like you are far away.
While expressing your feelings is healthy, making judgements can make people feel defensive. It can cause communication to stop.